Yes, women are wired to crave attention. In our tribal days, not only did their personal survival depend on getting attention from both the men and women of the tribe , their ability to pass on their genes required it was well.
Getting attention meant she got to share the food and protection provided by the tribe and she got to reproduce. If no one paid attention to her, she died. Modern women seek out this attention in all kinds of different ways, from dressing sexy, acting provocative, getting tatted up, being needy, being angry, getting their nails done, even being successful. But this is a reaction to only having received negative attention or having given up on ever receiving loving attention.
Think of it this way: do you ever go out with a group of your guy friends and get frustrated that your guy friend who already has the girlfriend is getting all of the female attention? That's because he's usually the one giving women the least amount of attention.
They act cute and flirtatious, and try to mirror his aloofness. For most men, one of their strengths in communication is that they are direct and to the point. However, women tend to meander and lack an authoritative stance. That's one of the reasons why you coming on so strong is such a turn-off.
But now that you understand women a bit better, you get that being indirect with your intentions and feelings towards a girl will help you in the long-run. A recognized leader in helping men become irresistible to women, Kate works with clients from around the world, helping them to get the girl they want. Sign in.
Like "good morning" or just a quick "love ya" "thinking of you" but it is not really necessary to talk or meet up all the time. So long story short, if you find someone who appreciates her freedom and is not needy, it will be fine. I mean, eventually things will get more commited and living together or marriage will start being a topic But even then, a couple doesn't have to be on top of each other all the time.
I live with my fiance and we still give each other space. Both still do things on their own and can hang out separately in the appartment. With communication and trust it can be done and nobody has to feel suffocated and overwhelmed. RJGraveyTrain Master. It depends on the girl. I don't need constant contact with you. My guy and I talk every day but not all day and we see each other a handful of times a week. That's enough for the both of us. He understands that I need solitude to recharge or I'll go nuts.
Sign Up Now! Sort Girls First Guys First. As a girl, I personally would like to have more attention from a guy, but since actually both the guy and the girl in the relationship are probably also busy with other things besides each other, expecting visits like everyday is a little much to ask for. What I would like personally is me and my boyfriend seeing each other on a regular basis but not everyday and maybe have a casual text conversation going one that doesn't require immediate replies for either person and you can just reply when you have time.
And when we see each other we would make the best out of it and do something fun together! I actually think that might be better than seeing each other everyday because it's really the quality of the time you spend together not how much time you spend together.
And also if you have a girlfriend you could just talk to her about your concerns and if she cares about you she would understand and try to accommodate. I think this kind of relationship would be a lot more fun than having one where you feel obligated to see each other everyday and then it kind of gets boring, because when you don't see each other everyday you can get all excited about seeing each other and plan to make it special!
Sorry this was kind of long but that's what I think! I don't expect him to see me every day since I have my own shit to take care of and I'm not always in the mood of seeing other people myself. But having a brief convo over text or phone at the very least, is enough for me. Any less than that and I'd start wondering if he isn't into me anymore.
Have you ever had a girlfriend? Because your attitude might change once you actually get one. I thought I was like that too a few years ago, I'd be Miss Independent and would go days without contact without even realizing it. But that all changed when I actually fell hard for someone. I wanted to talk to him all the time. Because that's what happens when you're really into someone. You go from 0 to real fast and end up wanting to do things you never thought you'd want to do before.
I'm like that too. Felinegirl opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic. Texting daily is kind of expected I think. But if you really like a girl, you will want to spend more time with her and it will feel natural and easy instead of like something you need to get a break from for days after just a few hours. If Im with my boyfriend for 2 full days, I like having a few hours to myself too.
But if he needs anything I'll be happy to be there for him anytime. Don't drop school or work for her or at least not so often it becomes a problem , meeting up twice a week would be doable for a lot of girls I think. Relationships do require a lot of care, and each girl is different in terms of how much attention they want from you.
Some start to feel neglected or not cared about if they don't hear from you for awhile, but others can go days without seeing you and be just fine. I'm the type who needs to be loved all the time my boyfriend lives with me, so I can pretty much get attention whenever I want. You just have to look for a girl who is okay with a little distance.
You may even be able to get a needy girl as long as you text her often, even if it's about nothing special. MargaritaPeach opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic. I think the crucial thing, especially in your scenario, would be to find a girl who has a lot of social a anxiety herself. Then she will be perfectly content with seeing you once a week or so.
Some girls need less reassurance than others. You might be able to find one that wants very little from you. A girl who is very involved in her work or her studies. But some of them are a tremendous amount if work.
If you enjoy their company, though, maybe you will feel LESS suicidal and anxious instead of more. Imasanegirl Xper 6. I try not to be needy and try to give you your space. Like, my sister always expects her boyfriend to talk to her, see her all the time and invites herself to wherever he goes, but he's the same way. They're a match made in heaven. It could be, very simply, that your S. When a partner is heavily distracted by other commitments, tasks, stress, and anxiety, they may find it too challenging to redirect their attention—and they may even be so wrapped up that your needs don't even register.
A little reminder that you're an equal part of the relationship and have needs, too, could help redirect their focus. Could you be the one who's not listening? Carve out time for conversation, get in tune with their needs, stop avoiding difficult chats, empathize with what they say, and listen to how they say it.
Overuse of the phone, computer, social media , and video games—along with an unwillingness to unplug even after being asked—is a big departure from the early "getting to know you" phase of your relationship when all conversations seemed interesting and all concentration was focused on your time together.
It's also could be a sign your partner is unwilling to prioritize your relationship, communication has eroded, or you're no longer top-of-mind. When this happens occasionally, it's normal, but consider it a red flag if it's happening constantly. In order for your partner to communicate, share ideas, and feel close to you, you must reciprocate their attention; a healthy relationship isn't a one-way street.
If every word out of your mouth is an insult, a critique, or disparaging remark, your behavior is toxic and negative, and no one, least of all your S. Even seemingly harmless criticism and patronizing comments, too, can take a toll.
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